To decline means “to refuse, especially in a formally polite way” (Webster’s New World Dictionary). Dualism is a little more difficult to define. By dualism, I basically mean the existence of conflicts. These conflicts start in the mind and can become visible in the physical world. These conflicts arise when people expect for there to be mutually exclusive ideas or aims among people. When people fail to look for and expect a solution to life that is satisfying for all, they get caught up in “me vs. him” or “us vs. them” or even “me vs. me” situations.
To decline dualism is humble oneself until the ego loses its power to create conflicting ideas and situations. To decline dualism is to refuse to believe that conflict is necessary or inevitable. To decline dualism is to believe that there is a good plan for the universe that takes everyone’s well-being into account.
I want to make a distinction between selfishness and love. Selfishness believes that one must accumulate as much good for oneself as possible because good is limited in the universe and others are competing for this good. Love realizes that what is truly good for one person also benefits everyone else. There doesn’t have to be a conflict between what one person wants and what others want him to have. Love realizes that good is not limited. Selfishness mistakenly believes that in order to achieve some respect from others, or to win acceptance from others, one must sacrifice part of one’s own good for the good of others. Love knows that if one person’s good is decreased in any way, this decrease can have a negative effect on everyone else.
Basically, we create dualism when we expect for there to be conflicts among people. I have found that there are more options in life than we usually expect. And there is always the option for all things to work together for the good of everyone. This option is more likely to become a reality if we expect it and allow it happen. However, our egos want to compare ourselves with others. Often, we don’t want good for others. We want to know that our hard work or intelligence has given us an advantage over others in obtaining good things. If we don’t accept ourselves as unique and valuable people, we get caught up in a never-ending game of comparisons. If we do accept ourselves as essentially unique and valuable people, if we believe that the good of one person is compatible with the good of others, then we can politely refuse to create conflicts, and decline dualism.